I’ve missed hugs during this pandemic. Elbow bumps just don’t cut it for me.
What types of hugs are there?
There’s the, “I miss you mom” hug;
The “Thank you” hug with pat, pat, pats on the back;
The “good-bye” hug that says, “come back soon;”
The three air kisses hug like a fluttery butterfly, perfunctory, and noncommital;
The somber, consoling hug; and
The hands on shoulders hug followed by a firm handshake.
These I understand. But then there are some people who latch on like a twining vine, too tight and constricting. I feel they need something from me. Their hug is a demand, as if I had all the love, all the security, all the affirmation and they only wanted to refill their tanks by squeezing me dry.
But the hug of a true friend, an adoring lover, a winsome child, gives as much as – or more than – what they want in return. Those are my kind of hugs!
Are your hugs obligatory or heart-felt?
There’s something in a simple hug
that always warms the heart;
It welcomes us back home
and makes it easier to part.
A hug’s a way to share the joy
and sad times we go through;
Or just a way for friends to say
they like you ’cause you’re you.
Hugs are meant for anyone
for whom we really care,
From your gramma to your neighbor,
or a cuddly teddy bear.
A hug is an amazing thing
It’s just the perfect way
to show the love we’re feeling
but can’t find the words to say.
It’s funny how a little hug
makes everyone feel good,
In every place and language,
it’s always understood.
And hugs don’t need new equipment,
special batteries or parts
Just open up your arms
and open up your heart.